What kind of blogger would I be if I didn't do a post about New Years and resolutions and changes? I am already a lazy one that never blogs with any regularity so I really should do what I can.
I posted the link to a fabulous blog on my fb page about changing resultions- reframing the usual weightloss blahblah ones to a healthier mindset. That blogger really stated all I was thinking in a more cohesive manner than I can type, but I thought I'd expand/ be redundant on my own post.
Everyone is so anti-resolutions these days. "I don't believe in resolutions" "they never work anyways" etc. I LOVE resolutions. I love excitement and life changes and reflections. I love anything that makes people look at their lives honestly and think about how they can move forward. I make a point of doing this several times a year- September is really my "new year".
I do NOT love anything that encourages people to feel inadequate, self conscious, not good enough. Really though, like all of life, it depends on how you look at it and how you frame it.
I can say I want to lose weight. Honestly of course I would love to lose 10lbs. I would love to be a small 4, rather than a slightly big 4 edging into the 6 a couple weeks out of the month. I am aware of what I would need to do to get there, and am right now unwilling to do it. If I say "I need to lose weight" I am subtly saying to myself that I am too big... I am too fat, I am not enough. Reframe that shit. I really want to be stronger. I want to lift more and run further and be better. Not better than anyone else- better than 2013 me. And I do that by working my ass off. In all things.
I want to fuel my body with quality foods- to feel better and perform better. The greatest thing about all that is that leanness comes with lifting more and fuelling the body properly. I'll slip and that's ok. All I can do is the best I can.
Maybe some will quit smoking, quit drinking pop, quit swearing (SO not one of mine obviously), quit eating fast food, quit raging, quit a job they hate, quit taking life for granted, start the gym/yoga/ cardio/ eating better/ drinking more water/ taking care of themselves..... Maybe they won't. I think anything that makes people start thinking about making positive changes is a beautiful thing.
Lets be realistic though friends. I tell clients to set smaller goals. You want to start eating better, don't buy only quinoa and grassfed beef and protein powder. Guaranteed it will crash- rare are those who can do 180 degree turn. Be gentle with yourself. Make small changes- drink more water and get rid of calorie laden beverages. Substitute whole grain/ real food for packaged stuff more often. Eat more veggies. Just consciously eating more fruits and veg will make an enormous difference. Register for a class- one class, not 6. Schedule the rest of your life around it. Don't let fear stop you. Everyone at the gym who is really there to work out won't give one shit what you are doing. And if they do, they're douchebags anyways and who gives a shit what they think.
That is the best resolution IMO- stop caring what other people think. LIVE.
My resolutions are really just reminding myself of the goals I have throughout the year. Looking back on my actions and behavior and how I can be authentic to myself. How I can live with intention, rather than impulsively and emotionally. How I can learn about and pursue my passions, while sharing them with others. How I can be present in the moment (this I SUCK at. I am addicted to the vampire that is my cell phone).... Large goals and ones I will likely be working at for the majority of my life. I will slip, I will have moments of sucking, but all I can do is take reminders like New Years and refocus.
And reread the 4 Agreements. I resolve to do that ;)
Happy New Years Eve friends. Take care out there.
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